"How might counselling help me or my relationships?"
"Counselling is the art of conversation." ~ Bruce (UC lecturer)
Many people who access this service come because they:
feel stuck or blocked in life or self;
are in a time of transition or loss;
are looking for direction and purpose in life;
are wanting to improve their relationships and/or general life skills.
"Who do you provide counselling to?" I support individuals (young adults and older) and couples.
"What is counselling?" Counselling is a space where you can unpack what is troubling you with the counsellor, make sense of it, and consider new ways of viewing or dealing with your situation. This is both a place to be heard and to hear yourself and a place to make plans, learn skills, connect with other resources that might be helpful.
"Is counselling different from trauma therapy?" Yes. Counselling does not dive as deep. We are exploring the here and now and what needs to change to help you understand better what is troubling you and find ways to move forward.
"How do I know if I need counselling or trauma therapy?" You can read the Trauma Therapy page. You can also Contact me and we can work that out together. Sometimes you may start with counselling or trauma therapy and find that at some point things change and you need to switch. That can be part of the therapeutic process.
"What approaches do you use?" For individual counselling I draw on elements of person-centred, coaching, spiritual care and somatics. The emphasis is on understanding what is troubling you, putting this in the wider context of your life and life story, linking the "talk to the felt experience" of what you are describing, and exploring resources and practices that might support you.
For couples counselling I draw on Gottman couples therapy and somatics. Gottman couples work focuses on building a relationship that is based on trust and respect for you each as individuals. This is achieved largely through education and supporting improved communication. Somatics link 'the talk' to the felt experience, provides education about how our nervous systems react and respond, and uses specific contact and movement exercises (non-sexual, of course, within the office) to support understanding of dynamics and how to shift them. Feeling something sometimes helps us understand it more than talking about it.
For parents who bring parenting questions, I draw largely on current understandings about attachment needs, Parent Effectiveness Training, and trauma prevention.
To learn more about any of these modalities you can google them. There are also links to some relevant websites and info about books on the Books and Links page.