"How might counselling help me or our relationship?"
Many people who access this service come because they:
feel stuck or blocked in life or self;
are in a time of transition or loss;
are looking for direction and purpose in life;
are wanting to improve their relationships and/or general life skills.
"Who do you provide counselling to?" I support individuals (young adult onwards) and couples.
"Why counselling?" We all live within a challenging world where life situations sometimes feels confusing or overhwelming. Our lives and our inner worlds can feel all tangled up and tied in knots. Counselling be helfpul when we feel lost or uncertain about how to find our way forward with intimate relationships, work or parenting challenges, grief or a life transition. Sometimes it is more vague, just a sense that life could be better, not such a struggle.
"What is counselling?" Counselling creates a space where you can unpack what is troubling you with the counsellor, make sense of it, perhaps consider new ways of viewing your situation and considering other options for how you might handle what is happening. This is both a space to just hear yourself and a place to make plans, learn skills, connect with other resources that might be helpful.
"Is counselling different from trauma therapy?" Yes. Counselling is different from trauma therapy in that it does not dive as deep. We are not delving into the deeper layers of your past, we are exploring more the here and now and what needs to change to help you understand better what is troubling you and find ways to move forward.
"How do I know if I need counselling or trauma therapy?" Drop me a line via email and outline what brings you to look for help. We will work out together what are going to be the most effective ways of attending to what is troubling you.
INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING For individual counselling I use four main frameworks. These all focus on getting to understand who you are as a person, more about your life situation, and what will help you find your way forward. Frameworks Person-centred: Key features include reflective listening that trusts that many of the answers are within you. Coaching: Key features include making plans, strategising, connecting to helpful resources. Spiritual Care: Key features include understanding the beliefs, values, connections that support you and sustain you, that give meaning and purpose to your life. Somatics: Key features include bringing more awareness to how these issues are showing up as sensations or emotions in the body and working directly with this at the body level. I use Somatic Experiencing and Integral Somatic work.
COUPLES COUNSELLING Four couples counselling I use two frameworks to help you understand and address your relationship challenges. Frameworks Gottman Method: Key features include skill building and a methodical way of attending to the challenges in your relationship. Somatics: Key features include exercises that involve connecting as a couple through movement or other experiential activities and noticing what shows up in the body as well as emotions and thoughts.
SUPPORTING PARENTS Many clients are parents and parenting questions and concerns arise in our work. There are many different models and thoughts about what constitutes "good parenting". I start from current understandings around what supports secure attachment and the development of a healthy sense of self and relationship. However, I trust that you know your child best and offer theory only as a support around. Frameworks Circle of Security: Key features include what creates secure attachment for children. Parent Effectiveness Training: Key features include respectful and peaceful parenting that trusts children's innate wisdom around their own needs. Trauma prevention: Key features include helping children regulate their nervous system and navigate scary and potentially traumatic situations helping them to build resilience.
To find out more about the frameworks mentioned on this page go to Frameworks