"How might counselling help me as an individual, a partner or a parent?"
INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING (for adults) We all live within a challenging world where life situations sometimes feels confusing or overhwelming. Our lives and our inner worlds can feel all tangled up and tied in knots.
Counselling be helfpul when we feel lost or uncertain about how to find our way forward with intimate relationships, work or parenting challenges, grief or a life transition. Sometimes it is more vague, just a sense that life could be better, not such a struggle.
Counselling creates a space where you can unpack what is troubling you with the counsellor, make sense of it, perhaps consider new ways of viewing your situation and considering other options for how you might handle what is happening. This is both a space to just hear yourself and a place to make plans, learn skills, connect with other resources that might be helpful.
Counselling is different from therapy in that they do not dive as deep. Having said this therapy often uses aspects of counselling and at times coaching to support the deeper, therapeutic work.
Framework Person-centred: Key features include reflective listening that trusts that many of the answers are within you. To learn more about person-centred counselling click here. Coaching: Key features include making plans, strategising, connecting to helpful resources. Spiritual Care: Key features include understanding the beliefs, values, connections that support you and sustain you, that give meaning and purpose to your life. Somatics: Key features include bringing more awareness to how these issues are showing up as sensations or emotions in the body and working directly with this at the body level. I use Somatic Experiencing and Integral Somatic work.
COUPLES COUNSELLING What is more challenging than human relationships, particularly marriage/partner relationships??
Couples counselling is a space to bring both your hopes and dreams for your relationship and the challenges. By exploring what is working well, where the challenges are, and bringing in greater understanding and skills the aim is to guide you back to each other in ways that feel nurturing, supportive, spacious, intimate, and life-giving.
Framework Gottman Method: Key features include skill building and a methodical way of attending to the challenges in your relationship. Somatics: Key features include doing exercises that involve movement and noticing what shows up in the body as well as emotions and thoughts.
PARENTS Raising children is not always that beautiful, intuitive process that the stories tell us. There are many roadblocks, challenges, confusing situations and perplexing behaviours to navigate.
Bringing support, understanding, skills and knowledge to your situation, working out what will be best for your kids within the frame of what is currently known about attachment and helpful strategies is a way of supporting you to feel more confident and secure in your parenting.
Framework Parent Effectiveness Training (PET): Key features include supporting children to find their own answers and agency in life and to learn to be respectful in relationship. Circle of Security (COS): Key featrues include attachment theory framework that provides principles by which parents can have a map for their interactions.
To find out more about the frameworks mentioned on this page go to Frameworks